“You are what your deep, driving desire is.
As your desire is, so is your will.
As your will is, so is your deed.
As your deed is, so is your destiny.”
Brihadaranyaka IV.4.5 – The Upanishads
I recently came across this quote while reading Eknath Easwran’s translation of The Upanishads. My heart nearly stopped in recognition of my own life not lived in these words. Written almost 3,000 years ago – timeless today.
• How many times have I known what my deep driving desire was, but ignored it for something else? Only to skew my destiny?
• How many times did I have the desire, but no will
• And how many times did I not fulfill my purpose because I could not put forth my deeds?
In so many ways we can chose paths that steer us away from our true purpose, believing it was what we “should do” for someone else; or what we “should do” for acceptance by others.
On a certain day, in a certain month, and in a particular year in my life, all that changed in an instant. I had a “spiritual awakening” and surrendered to my own true self. I made a conscious decision to step out of a life of darkness and self-delusion, and enter a life of light to myself.
It was a moment in time when I finally surrendered my resistance to follow my desire and my destiny.
I have never looked back.
How do you break the chains of not following your “deep driving desire”?
How do you change the pattern of doing the same thing over and over and never getting a different result?
In my own journey, I used the three “R’s” to help me discover and define where I wanted to go, how I could get there, and what I needed to do to arrive.
Recognize, Resolve, and Remove.
Recognize what “it” is. Don’t focus on what you are doing now that doesn’t work. Focus on what it is that you want that does work, that most certainly might work if you gave it a chance.
Maybe we don’t know what that is yet, but if we look, we will find it. Actually, more often than not we already know, but are too scared to admit what it is.
Perhaps you want to go into business for yourself? Or do you want to begin a new job or a new career? Perhaps you want to move away from a toxic relationship. Perhaps you want to use your artistic talent and expand your horizons. Or finally, once and for all lose the weight and never look back? Maybe your dream has always been to travel. Maybe it has been to just live differently.
Become still enough to be able to draw forth the wisdom of your true self and write what comes to your mind. Don’t censor, just allow what needs to emerge to do so.
What does that soft whispering voice, which you keep turning off, actually say to you?
• Is it reminding you to pursue a dream?
• Is it reminding you to fulfill a goal?
• Something you stopped doing long ago and regretted?
• Something you have always wanted to do, but were afraid to try?
Become quiet enough to hear the voice. Then capture what it says.
In fact, you don’t even have to say anything to anyone. Talking about it can diffuse the energy of actually accomplishing the dream. Sometimes it is better to announce that you have already done something, rather than announce you are going to do something.
When we engage in our will, we become disciplined in our deed. The daily regimen of brushing your teeth or brushing your hair are tasks that are performed automatically. When we resolve to a commitment of change, the steps we have to take become ones of joy, not drudgery. Even one minute devoted to the task will embed the discipline in your mind to create a daily habit.
Today, and just today, focus on fulfilling that destiny. Tomorrow will come soon enough
Remove obstacles from that which you wish to fulfill.
Take action each and every day toward removing the “clutter” of your mind and your life. It may be a road of months or even years. It’s not about the time as time is irrelevant when we are fulfilling our destiny.
Obtaining a Bachelor and Master’s degrees took me several years. During that time my focus was on the acquisition of knowledge, the honing of skills, and working toward expertise. The actual degrees were mile markers of my success.
Finances often stop us. What if there isn’t enough money? What if the money won’t come? What if’s… But somehow, somewhere, when we follow our intention, our destiny and our passion – the money always comes, and the money always finds its way into our plan.
There will be setbacks along the way, which is inevitable. These events are not always “failure” as we know them to be. Not “getting” something we seek may sometimes be another form of Grace. We might not see it that way at the time, but if we persevere, we will prevail.
When I encountered obstacles, my path did not diverge. Only the texture and landscape of the road beneath my feet changed.
Not from thin air – but from a daily reminder that honoring the still and quiet voice within you will create a choir of intention that will surround your being with the Light of your life.
Listen carefully – that sound you hear is the voice of certainty waiting to be heard.
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Kimberley L. Berlin, LCSW, CSAC, MAC, SAP, is the owner of Compassionate Beginnings, LLC, a private integrated therapy practice in Leesburg, Virginia. Her work focuses primarily on the treatment of addiction, as well as trauma, anxiety and depression. Using breath techniques, yoga and mindfulness meditation she guides her clients toward solution as well as helping them to uncover the source of their challenges.
Kimberley facilitates a bi-monthly workshop series through MeetUp. She is a public speaker, educator, and currently working on her first book.
© Kimberley L. Berlin, LCSW 2017